I was on Facebook about 5 minutes ago, saw a comment on one of my cousins' statuses, and recalled a conversation I had with one of my other cousins just before Sunday School yesterday. She told me that our uncle had de-friended her on Facebook. And I said, "That's absolutely ridiculous." And we talked some more and I realized, "Hey, I haven't been seeing any updates from him. I wonder if he de-friended me, too?"
Seeing as I remembered that I was going to check, I checked. And what do you know, I had been de-friended, as well. My uncle. MY OWN UNCLE. A grown man being so petty, acting like a tween girl in a catfight over something stupid. It's ridiculous. It's childish. And it's hurtful. I never did anything to him, but because I'm not on "his side" in this ongoing (kept that way by him, not us) "feud" with part of my family. I sent him a friend request to see what he'll do.
I'm upset that it's been so damn long since we've seen his kids (my COUSINS) at a family gathering. I'm upset that the incident that started the whole thing happened in the first place. I'm upset that he hasn't apologized for his behavior. I'm upset that he won't even consider meeting with anyone involved. Overall, I'm upset with him.
I used to call him "Uncle ****" (name disclosed because I don't need the chance of things worsening because I couldn't censor a freaking name) but now I find myself just calling him "****." Why should I call him Uncle? He sure as hell isn't acting like one. And I guess if this is the way he's going to act, I'm glad I got to see how he really is and how he handles things. If cutting out people from your life is the way you deal with a problem, you're going to get very lonely, VERY fast. Way to be an example for your children, ****. Way to be "family."
If Grandma was still here, would you be acting like this? Or would you cut her off, too? And you know something...I really don't give a damn whether you somehow find this and read it. You KNOW it's about you. I'm angry, and your actions affect more people than you realize. I'm pissed off at you, and I don't care if you know about it. You need to grow up and step up. Brushing a problem under the rug does NOT make it disappear.
But maybe I'll take a page out of your book and follow your example. I'm going to be immature and tell you something that little children say on the playground. "Act your age, not your shoe size."